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FAQ
These are some of the most frequently asked questions about the PLAB-Group.
- How did we meet?
- Who sleeps with whom? How do we decide which bed to end up in?
- Kids and families of choice...are you having any?
- Budgeting
- Do you live together?
- Coming out
- Did you ever consider just switching partners?
- Do we think we're better/more evolved/advanced than traditional monogamous couples?
- Holidays and/or family of origin issues
- Are we all going to keep our names?
- What does PLAB stand for?
- What do you guys look like?
- Are you still swingers?
- How do you know you're right for each other?
How did we meet?
Answered By: B
B's Version: – 14 October 2003
Well, the short answer is that we met at a dinner party hosted by some poly/swinger friends of ours. But the real answer is a bit more convoluted. As we mentioned, both couples discovered consentual non-monogamy, and both posted profiles on a website for couples seeking other couples and singles. When B & J posted their information, they promptly received an email from C &G. It innocently said:
We would love to see a pic of you two and discuss whether we have some common interests.
Cheers,
G & C
Although a bit wary (they were new at this), B & J responded with:
Hi -
Nice to meet you and thanks for the note! I've attached a picture for you to look at. As far as things we might have in common, we're certainly open to chatting about that. Can you tell us a little more about you and what you like to do in your spare time? :)
Looking forward to getting to know you better!
B & J
And so began the experience that we have come to call the PLAB group.
A few days later, on a hot summer evening, B & J found themselves at a dinner party hosted by a swinger/poly couple. The same evening, C & G got in their car on the other side of town, and ended up driving to the same house. After some introductions and slightly confusing conversation, the four figured out that they had corresponded on the aforementioned website.
During the course of the dinner, G & B discovered that they were both graduate students at the University of Minnesota. In an attempt to be friendly, G suggests that they meet for lunch some time. Unfortunately for G, he decided to extend this offer at the exact moment the conversation going on at the dinner table was at a lull - so his suggestion was overheard by the entire group. Some laughter ensued, and B recovered and told G he could stop by her office to meet her for lunch sometime.
The next day, B went to work as usual. At about noon, she heard a knock at her door and looked up to find G. When she said he could stop by "sometime", she wasn't entirely aware he meant tomorrow! G & B went outside to eat lunch and interesting conversation ensued. G attempted to compliment B, only to have his (more or less) innocent remark immediately shot down by B (which she still feels bad about and brings up from time to time).
This lunch must have been somewhat promising, as B & J decided to invite C & G over. After some negotiation, they decide to have G & to their house to watch Chicago and admire the fabulous costuming and song-and-dance numbers. During this hot summer evening, things heated up. The four of them saw each other several times over the next few weeks and a bond soon formed. Talk turned to dreams of big houses and families of choice. Stay tuned for the ongoing adventures of the PLAB group - the journey has just begun.
