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FAQ
These are some of the most frequently asked questions about the PLAB-Group.
- How did we meet?
- Who sleeps with whom? How do we decide which bed to end up in?
- Kids and families of choice...are you having any?
- Budgeting
- Do you live together?
- Coming out
- Did you ever consider just switching partners?
- Do we think we're better/more evolved/advanced than traditional monogamous couples?
- Holidays and/or family of origin issues
- Are we all going to keep our names?
- What does PLAB stand for?
- What do you guys look like?
- Are you still swingers?
- How do you know you're right for each other?
Kids and families of choice...are you having any?
Answered By: Gregg
Gregg's Version: – 23 March 2004
Is a family really a family if there isn't generational continuity? One of the reasons the four of us even considered uniting as PLAB as because none of us wanted children very much. We are all pretty serious about zero population growth, our career goals, and about living our lives for us right now. Who knows what will happen in five or ten years?
This is the score as it stands now:
- Two of us are okay with having kids
- One of us really wants to adopt or foster parent
- One of us really, really doesn't want to have biological kids
- Some of us have parents that really want us to have kids, and parents that are heartbroken that we aren't having any
None of these options really sound like recipes for parental success to me, but people with less parental ambition have done just fine...So what's the answer? No. Yes. Maybe. It's so hard to predict how child rearing will affect a "normal" relationship.
I'm glad that people ask us, though. That people think we can raise kids in this kind of relationship shows how accepting most of our friends are. They're curious about how we would manage the additional stress of child-rearing on top of our current complexities, and I have to admit that I'm a bit curious too. Ask us again in five years.
